etc

" no, it indicates lack of conscience and boundaries. the "fear of abandonment" is made up, it's used as a lever on a man with a functioning conscience who she hopes to gaslight into thinking it's all his fault, he just needs to be more sensitive and tolerant and love her more.
of course, they take your best trait, being a loving concerned man, and say you are deficient in that trait. they know you consider yourself as such, and they are attacking your self image. then you, unaware of the game being played, seek to prove that you are, in fact the caring person you know you are. once you start trying to prove yourself, you are jumping through her hoops. please note that you will never find the qualities that they demand from others present in their own personalities or actions.
if you are a hard, diligent worker, they call you lazy. and so on and so forth.
endocrine disruptors don't make you act with premeditation to destroy the decent people around you with 100% intentional mind games they know they are playing. "

from The Bush not Above the Eyebrows,  etc